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Qualities of Change
Posted on Jul 4th, 2007
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Jim
Jim
I seem to be a monthly blogger right now. Such is the "busy"ness of my life I suppose. June has been a transformative month, so I've been a little pre-occupied with myself. That probably sounds terribly egoic, but at times, I think that it's important to focus on yourself, to ground yourself, and to shore up your spiritual foundation.
On the note of transformation, I don't think that I've said enough about the qualities of change. Maybe this would be helpful for you if you're not sure what's going on with your life or if you're wondering if you're normal, messed up, or what have you. Change is as diverse as the number of people, but here are a couple of clues that I've picked up from my experiences.
1. It hurts. Lots of times we aren't prepared for the changes that come upon us, so we have a lot of boundaries and issues that need to be resolved before the change can fully manifest. Pain is usually (this may be deeply disappointing to you) of your own making. Most people don't have pains that aren't representative of deeper spiritual issues (I'm sure that they can happen, but bear with me and accept that you're part of the norm and not the exception for the time being). Pains can be emotional (not happy in a relationship), physical (frequent illnesses of all kinds), or mental (you don't like your job, your co-workers, your boss). Until you address what is imbalanced in you and face your fear, your boss, your philandering boyfriend, you will stay in a lot of pain because pain is a physical manifestation of the spiritual discord. Plus, we only seem to pay attention when life hits us in the head with a shovel. It's like stubbing your toe when you're not paying attention. Life is simply trying to get us to notice something.
2. Change excites. What do I mean by excite? Just that. Things get more excited around you. Things happen sooner and quicker. It's like someone hit fast forward on your DVD, and oh by the way, what happened to the month of June? You'll find yourself more excited about yourself, about the people you might, and about life in general. You'll find that you have more energy. You may have trouble sitting still and finding times for quiet. This is released energy pushing through your system, and following it can be very rewarding.
3. Relationships shift. When you change, the world around you changes. In April, I felt like a player on a stage, watching Act 1 change to Act 2. New relationships came to me, and other relationships diminished. Will you lose friends? Possibly. Will you find new friends? Most likely. Will your current relationships deepen and grow more vast? Undoubtedly, if you're ready for it. But don't hold on to anyone. That doesn't mean that you don't love them, but learning to let them be what they are and go where they need to will bring more love and a richness into your life beyond your imagining . It's like falling in love with a person, but instead you're falling love with everyone and everything.
Pain, relationships shifting, and excitement are three of the biggest qualities of change that I've experienced. Do you have others that you'd like to add to the list. Feel free to comment and offer you ideas. I'd like to hear them.
Thank you for reading this.
With gratitude,
Jim
On the note of transformation, I don't think that I've said enough about the qualities of change. Maybe this would be helpful for you if you're not sure what's going on with your life or if you're wondering if you're normal, messed up, or what have you. Change is as diverse as the number of people, but here are a couple of clues that I've picked up from my experiences.
1. It hurts. Lots of times we aren't prepared for the changes that come upon us, so we have a lot of boundaries and issues that need to be resolved before the change can fully manifest. Pain is usually (this may be deeply disappointing to you) of your own making. Most people don't have pains that aren't representative of deeper spiritual issues (I'm sure that they can happen, but bear with me and accept that you're part of the norm and not the exception for the time being). Pains can be emotional (not happy in a relationship), physical (frequent illnesses of all kinds), or mental (you don't like your job, your co-workers, your boss). Until you address what is imbalanced in you and face your fear, your boss, your philandering boyfriend, you will stay in a lot of pain because pain is a physical manifestation of the spiritual discord. Plus, we only seem to pay attention when life hits us in the head with a shovel. It's like stubbing your toe when you're not paying attention. Life is simply trying to get us to notice something.
2. Change excites. What do I mean by excite? Just that. Things get more excited around you. Things happen sooner and quicker. It's like someone hit fast forward on your DVD, and oh by the way, what happened to the month of June? You'll find yourself more excited about yourself, about the people you might, and about life in general. You'll find that you have more energy. You may have trouble sitting still and finding times for quiet. This is released energy pushing through your system, and following it can be very rewarding.
3. Relationships shift. When you change, the world around you changes. In April, I felt like a player on a stage, watching Act 1 change to Act 2. New relationships came to me, and other relationships diminished. Will you lose friends? Possibly. Will you find new friends? Most likely. Will your current relationships deepen and grow more vast? Undoubtedly, if you're ready for it. But don't hold on to anyone. That doesn't mean that you don't love them, but learning to let them be what they are and go where they need to will bring more love and a richness into your life beyond your imagining . It's like falling in love with a person, but instead you're falling love with everyone and everything.
Pain, relationships shifting, and excitement are three of the biggest qualities of change that I've experienced. Do you have others that you'd like to add to the list. Feel free to comment and offer you ideas. I'd like to hear them.
Thank you for reading this.
With gratitude,
Jim
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